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Written and read by Will Hobby at Matthew's
funeral 18th March 2004
Few of us go through life
creating truly unique and original styles and future hopes or
aspirations. However, Matt was one of the rare and special
few. He didn’t want to work in business or commerce, the
services or the forces. Cars were his passion and he had
dreams of working in the rally industry, a dream he was
chasing until his end.
My first recollections of Matt
were of a shy boy with masses of curtained ginger hair! He was
assigned to me by our form tutor. I took care of him and
showed him the ropes. He followed me around like a lap dog in
the first few days and like a lap dog got under my feet. He
would never be more than four feet away! But as he grew in
height and confidence his true charismatic appeal shone
through. We became close friends and shared a great deal of
memories.
It was a great pleasure to undertake the
Bronze Duke of Edinburgh Award with him, entertaining the
group as he did by falling hand first into a cow pat, injuring
himself on it and then his insatiable moaning that he ‘just
wanted to be at home, playing on his new N64’.
Soon
after Matt became a bit of a ladies man and he was never
without one of the Minsters top three by his side.
Matt
might have shared my ability on the football pitch but on the
athletics track he proved his worth when competing in the 4 x
100 relay race. He gave an unprecedented outstanding
performance and against all the odds brought home gold for his
house. A day etched in all our memories.
Matt carved
his own style, tastes, thoughts and feelings. This display of
honest expression earned him light mockery from his friends.
His name unfairly became synonymous with "thief". No-one know
why but to this day if police sirens are heard in the distance
the word "Matty" is not far behind.
In his more adult
life Matt never stopped being a character. He became a
connoisseur of daytime television, a grass boarder and dog
lover. With time on his hands it was not wasted, but utilised
to form many fantastic plans for the future, to work on his
car and an Open University degree.
Though his music
tastes differed greatly from ours his easy going nature always
meant, that no matter how much he hated it, he would always
come to walkabout with us, watch us drink and dance like fools
and while often unable to drink himself he would gladly drive
us home.
Matt had many talents, ranging from his
artistic abilities to mechanics and as we have just discovered
illegal street racing. On one occasion he won £50 racing his
mobility car, a 1.8l Astra Sxi. He had many attributes as
well. He was the bravest person I know, with more courage and
determination than I could ever hope for. Not once in his
3½-year battle, did I see any sign of him quitting. Not once
in 3½ years did he let his illness stop him doing something.
At times he had only months to live yet he planned for events
12 months down the line. His car is proof of that. Whilst his
trip to Dublin 8 days before he died showed his determination
against all the odds.
Matt is an inspiration to all of
us and he has taught us many things. What we take for granted:
our clothes, our homes, our health and our very lives, have
suddenly become much more precious. Above all, I have learnt
the true value of friendship and the importance of such a
bond. With a stark realisation of how fragile life is, my
everyday farewells to my friends and family are now much more
heartfelt. With the harsh reality of life now so clear. I know
we must not waste what precious time we have been
given.
This world is a better place for Matt’s presence
in it. His charismatic, enthusiastic and positive personality
is etched on all our hearts.
His passing is a sad
occasion, with his tiresome fight finally over. Matt died in
Lincoln Hospital on Monday 8th of March 2004 a little before
8.00 a.m.. At 8.02 a.m. in the same hospital a baby girl
called Emily was born to a loving family. I hope she will
travel through life without the trials and tribulations Matt
dealt with. If she grows to be a rally driver, we will know
that Matt has had some hand in her direction.
Last year
Alasdair and I walked one mile every hour for 100 hours to
raise money for MATTDOTCOM. We would walk one mile every hour
for 10,000 hours, if it meant having Matt back with us.
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